The following is a selection of suicide quotes that I have used in crafting the service for the funeral, memorial service or celebration of life for one who has died by suicide.
I have had the honor of serving as a Life Tribute Celebrant for many people over the years.
When someone has truly lost hope and takes their own life, the questions are enormous. What could we have done? Why couldn't we help? Why did they see no other choice?
No one can understand the depths of loss when feelings abandon a soul and leaves a void that cannot be filled.
A friend of mine told me about a loved one of his who ended his life. It was a complete shock. At the funeral only music and Scripture was used. However, just before the service was to end his son stood up and asked to speak.
"My dad was a good man. He raised us with positive, constructive ways. True he suffered from depression and lost his zest for life. I want you all to remember his good qualities. We pray for your understanding and God's mercy upon his loss of emotional control that ended his life. But please remember he was a wonderful man."
The son rescued the service from being only a numbing, heartless occasion.
Instead we must look at the entirety of a lived lived. The following are quotes to express the love, the frustration and the lessons their life has taught us. They can be used in the service and/or the service program.
"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so you must know pain." Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
"In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out."
"Our most difficult task as a friend is to offer understanding when we don't understand." Robert Brault
"We are all travelers in the wilderness of this world, and the best we can find in our travels is an honest friend." Robert Louis Stevenson
We are reminded how short life really is, and how we are just passing through. So, all the people you haven't told you love lately, tell them, and live your days like you mean it. Hal Sutton
Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand.
Hold fast to dreams for if dreams die, life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly. Langston Hughes
A true friend is someone who thinks you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked. Bernard Meltzer
That Most Difficult Thing
That most difficult thing –
To see something
From someone else’s point of view.
To let go of ourselves enough
To be able to care,
To let go enough
To be aware,
To let go enough
To sit still and listen
Taking it all…
To get inside someone else’s skin
And feel what they feel,
Their joy, their sorrow
As though it were our own –
A beautiful song, Angel On The Breeze, written by a father after the suicide of his daughter. He has given permission to freely distribute in the hope that this music will in some small way help others.
Creating a service for one who has committed suicide leaves many people at a loss as to what to say.
We can help.
We can create a beautiful poem about your loved one. Poetry shows off your loved one in a light that removes the stigma of suicide. It focuses your loved one in the happy memories. It enables you to express your feelings in a way that would not be possible otherwise.
It can bring smiles to the audience. And tears. Our purchasers tell us that through the poems we have crafted, they are able to express what would otherwise be impossible for them to say.