How To Write An Eulogy

The definition of an eulogy is a speech to praise, honor, commemorate the life of a deceased person.

The choice of the “eulogist” or person who delivers the eulogy is usually made by the immediate family.

It may be a clergy, either the main celebrant or another invited to assist at the service, a family member or a friend of the deceased. It does not have to be restricted to just one person; several people may pay tribute if so desired.

The task of writing one can seem over-whelming to many. By following these steps and tips, you will find it much easier.

DO: In composing your eulogy write out in chronological order:

• where and when they were born
• education
• marriage and children
• career
• special accomplishments and achievements
• significant life events
• special beliefs
• legacy
• memories

Are you stuck on some of these details?

You may not necessarily use all of these facts and details, but it is much easier to write a speech when you have a variety of material to select from. Writing an eulogy becomes very difficult when you are staring at a blank sheet of paper.

Tips on Your Presentation

DON'T: Don't start with 'we are gathered here today to honor the life of...' Everyone knows why they are there.

DO: Study some of

the eulogies on this site for ideas.

Senator Edward Kennedy's for his nephew, John Kennedy,Jr. is a beautiful example. It contains all the right elements; humor, poetry, and stories.

DO: Recognize the family members who are grieving by name. Note how Senator Kennedy does so. The family of the deceased appreciate being recognized for the tremendous loss they are experiencing.

DON'T: Don't say things about the deceased that aren't so. People sitting there will know.

DO: Giving an eulogy can be a difficult speech to give. Remember your audience will understand, and be sympathetic and supportive if you need to pause for composure.

DON'T: If you are having trouble trying to think of something to say, don't try to do it alone. Ask friends and family members to share with you their memories or stories. They will be thrilled to hear them included in your speech.

It would be suitable to recite a favorite poem of the deceased. Sometimes people write their own poem to express their deep feelings. If not, this site contains poetry, prayers, or quotations amongst which you may find something appropriate that speaks about your loved one.

DO: If you select a poem or passage be sure to practice reading it aloud to make sure you are comfortable with it.

DO:Refrain from foul or off-color language. Nor is this a time to reminisce about drinking escapes - particularly if the service is in a church.

DON'T: Don't ad lib. There is nothing wrong with reading your speech. People expect it.